November 7, 2016 by aubreykloppers
Sometimes I toss in little tidbits, other than the technical stuff I discuss and having to read for the umpteenth time how someone hated my country and how they are enjoying their new country, I would like to leave you with this bit of truth:
You can try convince yourself about safety, security and your kids future, but here are the stark realities (just please, be a man and read the entire article…):
- You will never feel like you belong. EVER
- You will always be the outsider. ALWAYS
- Your wife will miss her mom. She will cry herself to sleep for a very long time.
- Your kids will never really belong. NEVER
- Your kids will have to force themselves to think in a different language. They will lose the values and respect instilled into their lives by their mother-tongue.
- You will not see your family once a week. NEVER
- The little time spent with your parents and family from now-on could be the last.
- Your job will never be secure. NEVER
- Your new colleagues will look at you in disdain. ALWAYS
- You will have to work harder for the rest of your life.
- You will never feel the freedom of travelling in Africa. NEVER
- Your new home will be a police state.
- The crime-rate you left behind will catch up as more “of the like-minded people” will follow suit.
- READ THE FACTS will show you you are not really better off!
- You left behind the most up-to-date democracy for a stale system with far deeper seated corruption.
Actually, if you have left South Africa and you got to read this far, you should know that you have denied your mother, your father, your brothers and sisters the ability to see you and your kids grow into people they get to love. Instead you are leaving behind a legacy of education, exciting times for your children and the best opportunities in the world to not only live by outlive!
So, keep telling yourself you love “that” place. You will always be a visitor who denied your family and due to the way you speak of your motherland will always be considered the racist.
…and sometimes I think we are better off without you…